My very first Q-n-A email sent from a fan. I was pleasantly surprised to receive such an email in my inbox :)
"Hi. I've been reading your blog since 2007 and I've been thoroughly entertained. Ms Perky, I got a question for you.
You were quite a serial dater before settling with your current beau. Got any dating tips to share?
Social B."
Gee, me a serial dater?? Hahaha! I've never seen myself that way. I'd much rather call it actively dating. Being called a serial dater makes me sound like a predator ;)
I'm not sure if the following qualifies as dating tips but they're some of the things that had worked for me:
Dating Tip #1: Have No Expectations
If you're making wedding plans in your head after 5 minutes of meeting the guy, you need to stop and reconfigure your brain.
If you're comparing him to your ex, again you need to stop. The reason you're dating again is so that you can meet someone new and start a new chapter in your life.
Don't build the guy up, don't crown him your prince charming (at least not on the 1st date). Maybe the only expectation you should have for the guy is that he should at least pay for the date. Other than that, just keep an open mind on the guy.
Dating Tip #2: Don't Be Stupid
You must always exercise caution when going on dates especially if you don't know the guy well. If you're meeting him for drinks, never ever leave your drink unattended. Get your own drink, don't give him the chance to slip in something nasty into your drink.
Make sure someone knows who you're seeing and where. Even better, go on double dates. Another thing that I always do when I'm dating someone new is I always choose to drive myself to our date place and meet him there. I don't trust him enough (yet) to let him know where I live, plus I always want the option to be able to leave whenever I want to.
Dating Tip #3: Who Says It Has to be Exclusive?
When I was actively dating, I would date up to 5 guys in a week. Who says you gotta date just one guy at a time? If you're not ready to commit to a relationship, I say casually date as many guys as you can handle want at a time.
Some of my gfs have a hard time with this one because they say it's similar to cheating. Look, it's not cheating. It's not because you're not in an exclusive relationship. Dating a few guys at the same time means you don't have to waste time looking (or waiting or hoping).
For instance, my Friday nights were never short of dates because if my first option couldn't make it, I just move on to the next guy. Can you imagine just dating one guy? If he can't make it for the date, that means 1 day gone. Remember 2 things: life is short and dating should be fun. So go out and explore your options :)
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